A few years ago I was given a Keurig for Christmas. Without a doubt, it still is the most convenient thing I own. I’m a pretty busy person and I love things that make my life easier and more efficient. It only requires that I turn it on, put in a k-cup and press “Brew.” Other than remembering to put a mug underneath, it’s all mostly muscle memory at this point and I don’t even really think about it. My life, and especially my mornings, are much easier because of this.
In recent conversations with people the topic of self-esteem keeps coming up. Of course I have had discussions with friends about their own struggles, but it also keeps coming up through people’s actions. In the way they talk about others and themselves. I realized something: People are consumed by how other people view them, so I should stop caring about what other people do and just focus on myself. It helps out everyone!
Adopting this, while incredibly difficult, has made my life easier.
If you have never felt insecure, man, please tell me what that’s like and then own up to lying about it. We’ve all felt insecure at some point in our lives to varying degrees. Confidence is not something you are born with. It is a learned habit and it takes some far longer to amass a healthy wealth of confidence. It starts with you though. You need to be good to yourself. Confidence and positivity are infectious.
When I would listen to people talk about their “not ready for summer bodies” I used to think “If you think that you’re not ready, what must you think of me?” Now I think “That must suck to feel that way and worry so much about what others think.” The torture that people put themselves through to wear a bathing suit is crazy to me. Ten, twenty, thirty years from now people won’t be saying “Remember when ______ looked ______ in that bathing suit?” They’re going to say “Remember when ________ [did this great/terrible thing]?” Make people remember the GREAT THING you did! Spending so much time worrying about what others think of you is exhausting and unproductive. And if they’re thinking negatively of you, it’s only because they actually feel that way about themselves. It’s not about YOU. So, enjoy your life! Spending your time spreading positive energy and not bringing yourself down is a much better use of your time. Trust me! I’VE LIVED THIS!
I chose to use the example above because it is the one that helped me to change my line of thinking, but it also helps to tie together everything that I am saying. When I was at my heaviest I had envisioned how much different my life would be when I lost the weight. I expected it to fix all my problems and my life would change dramatically for the better. While the actual physical changes have been amazing, it’s the act of taking better care of myself and treating myself well that has ultimately changed my view, increased my confidence and made me feel better. Last year I was so focused on losing as much weight as possible that I missed out on events, dinners and gatherings because I thought that shrinking myself was the best way to enact positive change. I ended up getting depressed over the lack of change in numbers on the scale and having isolated myself. It was incredibly unhealthy. If I could go back and do things differently, I absolutely would. Trust me! AGAIN, I AM LIVING THIS!
Confidence is the most important attribute you can project. Build others up without knocking yourself down and surround yourself with those that do the same. Just imagine how great and worthwhile everyone would feel if we all adapted this policy for ourselves and each other. Earn the game ball every single day.